I read this great post by The Catholic Table the other day. It’s not a pure home interiors blog, but the writer made some really good points about being realistic about your renovation goals – her discussions really resonated with me because I’ve been feeling a bit lost lately about our home. While I mentioned in this post that my objective was to love the home we’re in right now, I also couldn’t deny I was still getting confused about the extent of work I should be doing. It all boils down on waiting on God – that much I am 100% sure of. We are waiting on God to guide us along the plan he has for our family – do we move or do we stay put and renovate extensively? And like any obedient Christian, while we wait, I resolved to make our home as neat and as pleasant as I could make it for my family. Hence, the “love the home you’re in” drive.
But then I realized, the making do bit does involve renovations still. And as I likewise said before, I found myself getting confused about the extent of the renovations I should be undertaking – all the while taking in mind, and balancing, the possibilities of a) selling and moving out; or b) making sure the quick fixes now will blend in seamlessly with any long-term major renovations we might end up making, so as not to waste any money we shell out now.
This is where the points raised by The Catholic Table in her post really helped me. She said if you intend to stay in your home for at least a decade or beyond, then it makes sense to invest in your renovations – materials, quality, etc. But if you intend to pack up and leave in the next few years, in less than 5 years, then you’re renovating to sell. So no need to go overboard on your renovation expenses and choices right now.
Huh. That makes sense. I made the H sit down to discuss all this because I was feeling anxious about it all. I also found myself praying repeatedly, because I do feel the anxiety is also a form on impatience, and I really do want to wait on God, and I do trust His perfect timing. I suppose it’s the overwhelming nesting instinct that really kicks in when I find myself pregnant. But the H indulged me and we made a rough plan. We are waiting for some news this year, you see, and if nothing comes of it, then that means we aren’t selling and moving this or next year. The H gave us 3 years in this house. If the project doesn’t kick off by that time, we then seriously sit down and start renovating and truly expanding this home to fit 4 (yes, FOUR) growing boys. But before then, our mindset is “renovate to sell”. Hence, we need to get real with our renovations. Love our home, make it work for our expanding family (easier while the boys are all still little), but worry about today, not tomorrow, just yet.
This means I don’t have to worry about replacing the staircase to a more kid-friendly version in the next 3 years! This means setting aside the nights researching on whether I should cut down the windows in the study room just yet! This means having to live with ONE bathroom on the 2nd floor for now. (This is actually not so bad, because the kids have a bathroom downstairs. But ideally, I’d like to have the 2 younger boys upstairs, with their own bathroom, while the 2 older boys can share downstairs). It means being realistic, and not Pinning like crazy, and getting my goals all mixed up. Hopefully, this will translate to more patience and focus. It’s never recommended to sit idly while you wait on God – we are all expected to do our parts while trusting Him – but in my case, I felt I was all over the place, and this shows LACK OF TRUST!